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Using a mediator is different to using a lawyer and it is something that separating couples can choose to do together to reach agreement about their finances or their children, with the help of a neutral third party.

Family Mediation is a process that helps people sort out the issues that often arise as a result of the breakdown of a relationship. Couples meet with a mediator together, and try and resolve the issues, with the mediator acting as a facilitator.

It is voluntary.

It is confidential – subject to usual money laundering and child protection exceptions.

It is impartial. The mediator cannot give either party any legal advice, but can provide legal information – just not apply it to the parties’ situations.

At Turpin & Miller LLP we have our own in-house Mediators.

Mediation keeps decision-making in your hands. A mediator cannot give advice, and will recommend that you take legal advice alongside mediation, certainly at key points of the process.

Advantages to Mediation

  • It is often a cheaper and quicker way of resolving family issues
  • It can be a less stressful way of reaching agreement or finding solutions, and one of the key aims is to reduce conflict for the future
  • It facilitates direct communication between you, rather than through lawyers
  • It avoids lengthy (or any) correspondence
  • The court’s involvement in your affairs is either minimal or non-existent
  • You solve your problems together in discussion
  • The decisions reached are your own and tailored to your particular circumstances
  • There is an increased likelihood of decisions reached standing the test of time, because you have come up with them yourselves

The Process

There are many areas which you might choose to mediate about:

  • Divorce proceedings or separation
  • Financial issues
  • Arrangements about where the children should live, how often they should see each parents/grandparent etc.
  • Communication issues

The list above is not exhaustive and there may be other areas which are suited to being discussed and dealt with in mediation. Mediation can help couples at any time, whether before or after separation and whether or not legal proceedings have begun. Separation raises many problems which can often be resolved through mediation.

Please contact Ruth Hawkins to discuss our mediation service.

Help and support for separated familiesSome of our lawyers are accredited as Help and Support for Separated Families which means that they believe in helping their clients focus on the needs of their children and to reduce the amount of parental conflict that can exist at the time of separation. Find out more here.